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I think the point is that basic politeness involves not appearances of being polite, but rather thinking of the other person, their time, and how you would feel

I think the point is that basic politeness involves not appearances of being polite, but rather thinking of the other person, their time, and how you would feel if the roles were reversed. I do agree though that going as far as to register a domain for this one social quirk is a bit much.

dredmorbius 6y ago
basic politeness involves not appearances of being polite, but rather thinking of the other person THIS!!! I have the unfortunate experience of somewhat regularly engaging with people who: 1. Act in a manner / do something they think the other party should appreciate, where 2. The other party does not in fact appreciate this, and is often burdened, bothered, or inconvenienced. 3. When informed of this, the first party both accuses the second that they are ungrateful (for not actually being helped) and controlling (for expressing alternate preferences, including often no assistance). The cycle can reepeat, over precisely the same exchanges, repeatedly and over long periods. Small children not knowing better is excusable. Adults not so much. Kindness and consideration are not forcing your preferences down another's throat (exceptions for specific therapeutic expertise and treatment), but in offering to someone that which they express a preference for or interest in. So long as this isn't actively acutely harmful, one should oblige, aand graciously. Keep in mind that "where the roles reversed" may not be a reliable guide. It's not what you would want, but what they prefer. This lesson seems poorly assimilated by many.