As a manager/owner, if your team/company has such toxic people, you're better off losing them. I also wonder if tech ageism isn't at play here. The social rule

As a manager/owner, if your team/company has such toxic people, you're better off losing them. I also wonder if tech ageism isn't at play here. The social rules of high-school and college are nothing like the social rules of the rest of society. In those places, a person can create a group of friends and only interact with them for the most part. In a real job without high turnover, you have to learn to get along with everyone all the time. Startups (the ones complaining here) aren't known for having lots of older workers who've had time to polish their social skills and have the rough edges worn down (programmers generally aren't known for their amazing social skills in the first place). I'd conjecture that moving 2-3 older devs onto each of those teams could drastically improve the group dynamics.