I'd like to add a filter but in the opposite direction -- how do you know if you're asking a reasonable question or having a reasonable reaction to someone's op

I'd like to add a filter but in the opposite direction -- how do you know if you're asking a reasonable question or having a reasonable reaction to someone's opinion or information? -- Are you phrasing your question or reaction in a way that the person could reasonably respond to? Basically, if you are putting a question in front of someone such that their answer would get them in trouble or put them in some liability or embarrassment, don't expect them to respond. Or be angry or outraged when they don't. The most laughable example is when someone replies in a post to someone doing an AMA, saying, "please respond as your reply will be taken as the company's position on this matter". -- Are you giving the person a way to answer concretely? If you're asking someone to respond to you in a way that takes a lot of story telling, or high level judgement, or interpretation -- don't expect an answer. Most people have not thought about something at that level, or don't know enough to say. Or if they do, who knows whether that's what you want to hear or were specifically asking. Most people are a little lazy. Ask yourself if you're asking them to do work and a lot of hard thought just in answering your question. -- Is your question just as a spectator, or someone actually seeking to improve or help? A lot of people can't resist the urge to ask questions. And the internet was a great democratizing factor for that at least. But for what purpose are you asking? Even if you received the full information you wanted, are you going to do something about it? If not, are you just a spectator? Why are you qualified or deserving of an answer? It's like some sports fan wanting to ask their favorite team's GM a slew of questions why they made the starting lineup as they did. What difference does it make? To your fantasy football league? If you make it clear that you have some concrete desire, or role, or outlet to help in the situation being discussed, people are more likely to want to give an answer. Rather than your question just consuming time of theirs that ends up not producing anything useful as an outcome.