Frankly I think neither "side" in most of these arguments is clearly and consistently racist (though obviously racism is a huge problem in society regardless of

Frankly I think neither "side" in most of these arguments is clearly and consistently racist (though obviously racism is a huge problem in society regardless of these arguments), and both "sides" tend to jump to accusations of racism too quickly. I'm not putting forward a "both sides are just as bad" argument - far from it - but I'm not making that distinction right now. What I am saying is that, in cases where I do see one or both sides of one of these arguments behaving irrationally, it is almost always a too-quick jump to accusations of racism, rather than the inverse problem: Actually being racist. However, despite this being a "both sides" problem, what I think happens is that when somebody on the "anti-racism side" (or "pro-diversity side" or whatever) ends up doing something apparently racist (usually against whites), it's much more dramatic because of the opportunity to point at hypocrisy, and therefore "counts" more against them than if the other side of that argument had committed some equivalent racism against a non-white.