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I don't really understand how you define "argue" such that you can completely avoid it while still admitting differences of opinion... To me, argument is funct

I don't really understand how you define "argue" such that you can completely avoid it while still admitting differences of opinion... To me, argument is functionally synonymous with the life-cycle of disagreement/resolution/coordination. Other qualities of intensity or emotional valence are almost entirely orthogonal to this core process of communication and negotiation to handle inevitable differences of opinion in a partnership. Through that lens, never arguing seems like never sharing opinions nor making joint decisions.

badestrand 6y ago
> I don't really understand how you define "argue" such that you can completely avoid it while still admitting differences of opinion... I am not rconti, but for me there is a big difference as well between arguing and talking about a difference in opinion. Arguing for me is "fighting", being confrontative and aggressive, blaming and letting off steam. The other thing then would be a calm, collaborative and resolution-oriented talk about an issue. I personally had relationships with both kinds but can not really pin down why one relationship resulted in arguing and all others did not.