If you change jobs, you impact financial outlook for both of you. I don't think a veto is as unthinkable as you make it out. Especially in long marriages, coup

If you change jobs, you impact financial outlook for both of you. I don't think a veto is as unthinkable as you make it out. Especially in long marriages, couples often operate as a team - one spouse chases the job opportunities, the other one holds down the fort. One spouse makes money, the other runs a startup. Etc. That doesn't work if you think "my life is mine only, nobody gets a veto". You give up autonomy for better cohesion and combined success. But I think what's important to know is that in long-running healthy relationships, people have worked on setting boundaries and agreeing on what's off-limits and what isn't. It's not about "pressure", it's about having an agreement.