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And yet, with a little time, patience, and dedication from parents, all children can be taught to be respectful, focus, and learn the way we need them to learn

by dpcan 6y ago

And yet, with a little time, patience, and dedication from parents, all children can be taught to be respectful, focus, and learn the way we need them to learn during a strange and complicated time. This world is full of can't can't can't. Everywhere we turn, if there's an inconvenience involved. If we have to do something boring. If it won't be fun. If it's hard work..... we can't do it. It can't be done. I wish we had a "we can do this" attitude. I wish parents could say, "Don't worry, let's help each other. You may not have the time, but I do, and I'm here to help." But I'm out of hope.

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mumblemumble 6y ago
If, by "a little time", you mean a few years, until they're psychologically developed enough that you can expect this of them. "The way we need them to learn" strikes me as a very telling choice of words. This is a moment where we need to be meeting their needs, not just molding them to our expectations.
- dpcan 6y ago
  My son had to miss pre-school when he was 4. I created a home-based program (week to week) where we learned everything I could find that would normally be in a regular pre-school curriculum. We worked for 3 hours every morning "studying", and he was 4. I made it fun. I made it productive. We took breaks. We had snacks. We had recess. It worked. By the end of the summer, he was reading and more prepared for Kindergarten than any of the kids in his class. Yes. If parents stop complaining, and get down to work, and make this fun for their kids, and have a positive attitude, even the youngest students can learn from home. Now days we even have Zoom options, so we WILL be able to get kids eye to eye with teachers, friends, other students. I would have loved that 8 years ago.
  - james_s_tayler 6y ago
    Ah, so the original comment is predicated on the assumption that all adults are capable of doing that for their kids. Some are. Some aren't. Same goes for the kids.
    - dpcan 6y ago
      I'm saying that all adults are capable of making distance learning work for their kids. They CAN do it, but it will be HARD.
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      - james_s_tayler 6y ago
        Nah.
      - obmelvin 6y ago
        Some parents are ESL with low literacy rates and little access to technology in their homes. It's very privileged to preach to such people and tell them they need to just get over it, stop complaining, do the hard work. Not everyone lives the same life as you.
  - sarakayakomzin 6y ago
    >I created a home-based program (week to week) where we learned everything I could find that would normally be in a regular pre-school curriculum. >We worked for 3 hours every morning "studying", and he was 4. >Yes. If parents stop complaining, and get down to work, and make this fun for their kids, and have a positive attitude, even the youngest students can learn from home. this is so out of touch with reality that it doesn't even begin an argument in good faith.
  - cameronfraser 6y ago
    What you did with your child is vastly different than sitting them down in front of a computer screen for hours. You interacted with your child and gave them a social experience and hands on activities. People have to work and can't just take off to be full time teachers for their children. Sure you would have loved Zoom, but I doubt your child would have.
rootusrootus 6y ago
> This world is full of can't can't can't. The world is filled with plenty of that, and it always has been. But plenty of people are absolutely tackling this mess with a can-do attitude. You're just not seeing it, for whatever reason. > But I'm out of hope. And that may be the reason ;-). Turning off the news is the best choice I've ever made. Can't be too depressed when I don't get bombarded constantly with BS, we're too busy living our life to the best of our ability.
- dpcan 6y ago
  Unfortunately the laziness is all around us where I live. We’ve struggled for the last 10 years to find more than 2 or 3 other families that think the way we do.

by dpcan 6y ago

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mumblemumble 6y ago

If, by "a little time", you mean a few years, until they're psychologically developed enough that you can expect this of them. "The way we need them to learn" strikes me as a very telling choice of words. This is a moment where we need to be meeting their needs, not just molding them to our expectations.

dpcan 6y ago
My son had to miss pre-school when he was 4. I created a home-based program (week to week) where we learned everything I could find that would normally be in a regular pre-school curriculum. We worked for 3 hours every morning "studying", and he was 4. I made it fun. I made it productive. We took breaks. We had snacks. We had recess. It worked. By the end of the summer, he was reading and more prepared for Kindergarten than any of the kids in his class. Yes. If parents stop complaining, and get down to work, and make this fun for their kids, and have a positive attitude, even the youngest students can learn from home. Now days we even have Zoom options, so we WILL be able to get kids eye to eye with teachers, friends, other students. I would have loved that 8 years ago.
- james_s_tayler 6y ago
  Ah, so the original comment is predicated on the assumption that all adults are capable of doing that for their kids. Some are. Some aren't. Same goes for the kids.
  - dpcan 6y ago
    I'm saying that all adults are capable of making distance learning work for their kids. They CAN do it, but it will be HARD.
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    - james_s_tayler 6y ago
      Nah.
    - obmelvin 6y ago
      Some parents are ESL with low literacy rates and little access to technology in their homes. It's very privileged to preach to such people and tell them they need to just get over it, stop complaining, do the hard work. Not everyone lives the same life as you.
- sarakayakomzin 6y ago
  >I created a home-based program (week to week) where we learned everything I could find that would normally be in a regular pre-school curriculum. >We worked for 3 hours every morning "studying", and he was 4. >Yes. If parents stop complaining, and get down to work, and make this fun for their kids, and have a positive attitude, even the youngest students can learn from home. this is so out of touch with reality that it doesn't even begin an argument in good faith.
- cameronfraser 6y ago
  What you did with your child is vastly different than sitting them down in front of a computer screen for hours. You interacted with your child and gave them a social experience and hands on activities. People have to work and can't just take off to be full time teachers for their children. Sure you would have loved Zoom, but I doubt your child would have.

rootusrootus 6y ago

> This world is full of can't can't can't. The world is filled with plenty of that, and it always has been. But plenty of people are absolutely tackling this mess with a can-do attitude. You're just not seeing it, for whatever reason. > But I'm out of hope. And that may be the reason ;-). Turning off the news is the best choice I've ever made. Can't be too depressed when I don't get bombarded constantly with BS, we're too busy living our life to the best of our ability.

dpcan 6y ago
Unfortunately the laziness is all around us where I live. We’ve struggled for the last 10 years to find more than 2 or 3 other families that think the way we do.