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One alternative thought based entirely on my own experience: late at night when both parties are exhausted sometimes isn't the best time to work out a thorny is
by kaonwarb 6y ago
One alternative thought based entirely on my own experience: late at night when both parties are exhausted sometimes isn't the best time to work out a thorny issue. I agree letting things fester isn't great in general - but I find that my mind and emotions are often in a better state after some rest.
There are also, as the article suggests, some disagreements just not worth chasing to the bottom.
- ticviking 6y agoIt's okay to acknowledge that both of us are exhausted and upset. That whatever issue is going on is real and we commit to doing solving it. Often that much is enough to make anger give way to peace, or at least acceptance and resolve.
- jschwartzi 6y agoEspecially if you can admit that it’s a real problem and that you’re taking it seriously.
- zubspace 6y agoI have a natural tendency to walk away from problems or ignoring them. Fortunately I have a wife who cannot rest until we're ok with each other. I agree that it's unproductive to talk about something when emotions are out of control. Both should take a break, a walk, time to cool down. What I think is, that late in the evening I get into a state, where I am too exhausted to defend my point of view. And sometimes that is the key to accept a different opinion more easily. But your right. Some problems cannot be solved in an evening. I guess it alreday helps to talk about them and maybe agree to disagree for now.