i used to be a very argumentative person, and one thing i noticed was a big difference between "supressing" vs "releasing" the emotion or need to argue supress

i used to be a very argumentative person, and one thing i noticed was a big difference between "supressing" vs "releasing" the emotion or need to argue supressing, for me anyways, always lead to more stress and then a huge random argument about totally irrellevant things... conversely, mentally imagining that im "letting go" of that need/feeling to make my point, was alot more effective