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by hnarn 6y ago
It’s a variant of the suggestion often given in therapy and recently popularized by Jordan B Peterson I believe — and no matter what you may think of him as a person, it is a good strategy — “Treat yourself as someone worth taking care of”. Meaning: look at yourself as you would look at your own child, a pet, or anyone you would have the responsibility of looking after. It’s easy to miss meals, not dress yourself well and so on, but you might look at it differently if it was your kid or pet that was hungry. So take care of yourself as if you weren’t you!
The same thing goes with investments. To get over my own sometimes pathological cheapness (a combination of growing up poor and other stuff) I sometimes view myself as a corporation when making purchases: what do I need, are there goals I have that lack materials, what needs to be replaced — then I just sign a blank check to myself as it were and buy the things I need.
In a way, taking care of yourself does become easier when you pretend it isn’t you. Especially if you have issues with caring about “you” in the first place.
- GaryNumanVevo 6y agoJP did a great job of packaging self-care and advice for disaffected young men, it's unfortunate he was put into a coma attempting to treat his addiction to benzodiazepines for 8 days in Russia. :( I also struggled to buy nice things for myself, especially clothing I wore the same converse for like 6 years until they fell apart. Definitely something growing up poor did to me. EDIT: Whoops I completely messed up the time period he was in a coma.
- ipnon 6y agoJordan Peterson was given a medically induced coma for 8 days, not 8 months, in January of this year, according to his daughter.[1] [1] https://nationalpost.com/news/the-doctors-here-have-the-guts-to-medically-detox-someone-mikhaila-peterson-on-her-fathers-condition https://nationalpost.com/news/the-doctors-here-have-the-guts...
- GaryNumanVevo 6y agoThanks, I edited it. Really sad to see his addiction has really put him through the wringer. I haven't heard him speak since he came out of treatment, in due time I suppose.
- infogulch 6y agoLast month Jordan Peterson and his daughter Mikhaila appeared on her podcast to talk about how he got out of treatment. https://youtu.be/HLWgVpmo1e0 https://youtu.be/HLWgVpmo1e0
- tim333 6y agoThat's kind of a freaky story. Enough to put you off mind altering drugs in general.
- schoolornot 6y agoYeah, I'm sorry but there is clearly a pattern in the US and maybe elsewhere of mental professionals not being all that mentally stable and more often than not raising kids that have problems of their own. I'm not sure if it's a result of something innate or that their brains become sponges that soak up the worst in people and that translates into issues within their lives. Unless you are at a level where you can't function in society, I feel that it's wise to steer clear of these shrinks.
- infogulch 6y agoI downvoted this comment because it contains no substance past an ad hominem attack against JP and his family, thinly veiled as 'mental health professionals', ('mentally unstable', 'raises kids with problems', 'something wrong with them', 'soak up badness from other people', 'shrinks') with no evidence, and perpetuates the US' incredibly damaging culture of perceiving stumbling on mental health issues as being caused by an innate problem with the person instead of being a treatable health condition. I don't see why mental health professionals should be magically exempt from getting hit by mental problems, and I don't think it means that there's something wrong with them if they do. Mental health professionals are still just people, and like any person they also are subject to health problems. Are doctors exempt from getting sick because they fix sick people? If a doctor gets sick is that evidence that their career is done and their entire profession is invalid?
- mleonhard 6y agoUsing budgeting software helped me get over my cheapness. I've been happy with YNAB for many years.
- faceplanted 6y ago> no matter what you may think of him as a person, it is a good strategy The thing about Jordan Peterson's book is that the chapter titles are usually _great advice_, but the content always tends to slide into his strange, mediocrely researched conservative ramblings and sometime worse, at one point he just about admitts that he blames one of his women patients for her own rape, at others he veers right into granddad style rants about young people and their "progressive politics" ruining the world. Honestly it's a bad book and people would be better off literally just reading the Quora question and answer that inspired it.
- NoOneNew 6y agoWhat page was that rape on? I don't remember reading it.
- adamgia 6y agoWell, you can't please everyone - in this case your interpretation is a stretch to say the least (Just about admits blaming a patient for their rape? Where did you get that?) and it sounds like you have a problem with conservatives (which I wouldn't say JBP is) rather than the actual book/author.
- ironic_ali 6y agoWell said. I would also like the source to him blaming a patient for their rape.
- libtarred 6y ago> it sounds like you have a problem with conservatives What's wrong with that? They tend to be the most callous, most uncaring, and most bigoted amongst us. Psychological studies back this up, by the way.
- gridlockd 6y agoSo your bigotry is justified because conservatives as a cohort exhibit elevated levels of certain unfavorable attributes?