One of the many dangers with this line of thinking is that on some level you're letting other people define you if you don't define yourself. A lot of people a

One of the many dangers with this line of thinking is that on some level you're letting other people define you if you don't define yourself. A lot of people are awful, so the definition you are given will be one you may not agree with and one that doesn't match reality. A sort of sunk cost fallacy combines with an illusory truth effect to reinforce the narrative created about you. Eventually it won't matter what you think about you, it will only matter what other people think about you.