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Semirecently got out of a long relationship. So long that I was basically a kid when it started and if there was such a thing as a dating site on the Internet
by mdakin 18y ago
Semirecently got out of a long relationship. So long that I was basically a kid when it started and if there was such a thing as a dating site on the Internet at the time I knew nothing about it.
I've not tried any dating sites. Why?
1. The factors that attract me to a girl are difficult to quantify and encode digitally. But relatively easy to sense in a face-to-face interaction.
2. I trust my own senses and instincts more than second or third parties when it comes to gleaning truthful information about someone. I am confident in my ability to read people in face-to-face situations. Why put a computer in the middle given that it essentially hobbles that critical ability?
3. I believe seconds/minutes/hours spent messing around with dating websites would be better spent out in the wild meeting, hanging out with and getting to know girls in person.
4. I suspect "permanently single" people are disproportionately attracted to these various tools and I'm better off fishing from a random sample to find who I'm looking for rather than a negatively biased sample. Or, ideally, I'm better fishing from a better-than-random sample biased, for example, by people I know and trust in the real world and THEIR extended circles of friends.
5. I strongly suspect that the hypothetical girl I like is basically feeling the same way and taking the same approach that I am.
Perhaps I'm off-base. And perhaps I will modify my views with time but this is what keeps me away from such sites currently.