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He literally said: > if that's not why you go to bars, i have to ask -you'd enjoy going to bars with mostly men? Which is a pretty dismissive normative claim

• hn_throwaway_99 6y ago
  The comment he was replying to was clearly from the perspective of a straight man, as that previous comment was pushing back against the idea that a prime purpose of bars is to find sexually compatible mates. It's OK if other people are having a conversation that isn't directly about you. Even better to reach out and see how it could apply to you if you think being in a bar with very few people you could be potentially attracted to would be less fun.
  • hhmc 6y ago
    _Obviously_ he was writing from the perspective of a straight man. I was pointing out that it was unfortunately that he structured his argument and tone in such a way that it was the reason he goes to bars, it was _the reason_. It's not a big deal, but it's not helpful and worth thinking about. > It's OK if other people are having a conversation that isn't directly about you. (FWIW this does apply to me, I just think this stuff matters).