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Gay men certainly enjoy bars full of guys, which your wildly heteronormative claim seemed to forget.

• hn_throwaway_99 6y ago
  Oh please. I'm gay, and this comment is ridiculous. You mean gay men enjoy being in bars where there are other people who they are sexually attracted to and who could be sexually attracted to them. Which is exactly the parent commenter's point. It's obvious the parent commenter is speaking about things from his own perspective, which doesn't make it some sort of "heteronormative" crime, it just means he's straight.
  • hhmc 6y ago
    He literally said: > if that's not why you go to bars, i have to ask -you'd enjoy going to bars with mostly men? Which is a pretty dismissive normative claim (it excludes women too for what it's worth).
    • hn_throwaway_99 6y ago
      The comment he was replying to was clearly from the perspective of a straight man, as that previous comment was pushing back against the idea that a prime purpose of bars is to find sexually compatible mates. It's OK if other people are having a conversation that isn't directly about you. Even better to reach out and see how it could apply to you if you think being in a bar with very few people you could be potentially attracted to would be less fun.
      • hhmc 6y ago
        _Obviously_ he was writing from the perspective of a straight man. I was pointing out that it was unfortunately that he structured his argument and tone in such a way that it was the reason he goes to bars, it was _the reason_. It's not a big deal, but it's not helpful and worth thinking about. > It's OK if other people are having a conversation that isn't directly about you. (FWIW this does apply to me, I just think this stuff matters).