There isn't a body that's suitable for me, unfortunately. The best I could hope for might be a somewhat waifish androgyny, but even that would only be a very, v

There isn't a body that's suitable for me, unfortunately. The best I could hope for might be a somewhat waifish androgyny, but even that would only be a very, very loose approximation. > So your problem was that other people didn't accept you for what you are No, the problem is that my identity didn't match my external presentation. Yes, fixing that comes with some stigma (and that sucks), but fundamentally the problem is making the outside match the inside. > And why is it necessary for people to advertise their pronouns Being called he causes dysphoric feelings and anxiety for me. This is not something that I have conscious control over. I have learned some adaptive behaviors, but ultimately it's much less uncomfortable for people to use they/them for me. I ask people to do this, and generally people don't have an issue. You could also use my name and avoid pronouns if you want. Ultimately, you can choose not to use my pronouns knowing it makes me uncomfortable. I ain't going to yell at you, but I'll also remember that you made a choice knowing how it impacts me. > Why do we have to divide people on a spectrum Great question. I actually think of gender as much more complex than a spectrum, but there are folks who see it as two, concrete points and will loudly exclaim "ONLY TWO GENDERS" to me. I'm just sharing my own observations about the behaviors I've seen and how I choose to interpret them.