Some people feel differently. If you were addressed as "ma'am" everywhere you went, you may not be that bothered. You might find it really frustrating. Even wi

Some people feel differently. If you were addressed as "ma'am" everywhere you went, you may not be that bothered. You might find it really frustrating. Even within the bounds of a gender (e.g. masculine), people will find themselves wanting to be seen as a particular point within that gender's spectrum. (E.g. you might want to be seen as a tough guy, or a sensitive man, etc.) It can be frustrating to feel like you are the tough guy but no one seems to treat you that way. The point is that experience is different for different people. Many people are comfortable with whatever, others aren't and want to try to take deliberate actions to make themselves be perceived more like how they see themselves.