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Does this mean that people who get married and later decide to run a business together should get divorced? Does this mean for example that the sqlite.org creat

Does this mean that people who get married and later decide to run a business together should get divorced? Does this mean for example that the sqlite.org creators wife is evil because she is (technically) his superior, being the CEO and owner of the company he works for? I really do not like such generalizations. Yeah, when there is a direct supervisor/underlying professional relationship and a romantic relationship develops, then things can get murky. And yeah, there is potential for supervisors to abuse their status to attempt coercing the other person, sure. And this has to be carefully considered and recognized so such abuses can be detected early and stopped. That still doesn't make any and every professional relationship that turns into a romantic one "wrong". The number of romantic relationships that originate from workplaces is 15-25% depending on survey and locale; I wouldn't call all those people "wrong" (or at least half of those people). Moreover, this guy from the article didn't even have a professional and romantic relationship at the same time. He had one then the other.

smnrchrds 6y ago
> Does this mean that people who get married and later decide to run a business together should get divorced? Does this mean for example that the sqlite.org creators wife is evil because she is (technically) his superior, being the CEO and owner of the company he works for? Definitely not, but the rules are sometimes written in a byzantine manner. This example is from Canada: Dental hygienist loses licence for treating wife, ruled as ‘sexual abuser’ https://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2019/09/13/dental-hygienist-loses-licence-for-treating-wife-ruled-as-sexual-abuser.html https://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2019/09/13/dental-hygien...
- DangitBobby 6y ago
  This is somehow worse than your synopsis makes it out to be. The same standard was selectively applied to this person when compared to another dental hygienist that did the same thing. And apparently somehow it is not against the rules when dentists do it, but it is when dental hygienists do it. Sounds like a case of regulatory capture, really.
jasonwatkinspdx 6y ago
> Does this mean that people who get married and later decide to run a business together should get divorced? Does this mean for example that the sqlite.org creators wife is evil because she is (technically) his superior, being the CEO and owner of the company he works for? Obviously not, and this is such a strawman I won't reply further.
- smnrchrds 6y ago
  It is not a strawman in practice. I have provided a link to a professional organization taking such a stance and the court agreeing with them in the sibling comment, which for reasons I cannot comprehend is now heavily downvoted.
- rndgermandude 6y ago
  Once you re-read your own comment that denies romantic and professional relationships could/should coexist, care to explain how exactly you conclude I was attacking a strawman? I gave an example that directly contradicts your generalized assertion that I pretty much disagree with ("you can either have a professional or romantic relationship") - call it proof by contradiction - as well as mentioning further survey data that contradicts you further.
  - jasonwatkinspdx 6y ago
    I don't need to reread my own comment. I wrote it. You have to decide: is this relationship professional or not. There are certain conditions that preclude the former. The second biggest mistake I've made professionally was not understanding this (note: I was not the person with power) and it cost me deep into 6 figures. So kindly take your trivializing nonsense of what I'm saying elsewhere. You can have a professional relationship, or you can have a romantic one. One often starts before the other, and that's ok so long as consent and power are balanced through that progression. But blending of the two under ambiguous circumstances enables horrific abuse, and I won't pretend otherwise just because people fantasize themselves as the boss that gets to date everyone attractive in their office.
    - 6y ago

smnrchrds 6y ago

> Does this mean that people who get married and later decide to run a business together should get divorced? Does this mean for example that the sqlite.org creators wife is evil because she is (technically) his superior, being the CEO and owner of the company he works for? Definitely not, but the rules are sometimes written in a byzantine manner. This example is from Canada: Dental hygienist loses licence for treating wife, ruled as ‘sexual abuser’ https://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2019/09/13/dental-hygienist-loses-licence-for-treating-wife-ruled-as-sexual-abuser.html https://www.thestar.com/news/canada/2019/09/13/dental-hygien...

DangitBobby 6y ago
This is somehow worse than your synopsis makes it out to be. The same standard was selectively applied to this person when compared to another dental hygienist that did the same thing. And apparently somehow it is not against the rules when dentists do it, but it is when dental hygienists do it. Sounds like a case of regulatory capture, really.

jasonwatkinspdx 6y ago

smnrchrds 6y ago
It is not a strawman in practice. I have provided a link to a professional organization taking such a stance and the court agreeing with them in the sibling comment, which for reasons I cannot comprehend is now heavily downvoted.
rndgermandude 6y ago
Once you re-read your own comment that denies romantic and professional relationships could/should coexist, care to explain how exactly you conclude I was attacking a strawman? I gave an example that directly contradicts your generalized assertion that I pretty much disagree with ("you can either have a professional or romantic relationship") - call it proof by contradiction - as well as mentioning further survey data that contradicts you further.
- jasonwatkinspdx 6y ago
  I don't need to reread my own comment. I wrote it. You have to decide: is this relationship professional or not. There are certain conditions that preclude the former. The second biggest mistake I've made professionally was not understanding this (note: I was not the person with power) and it cost me deep into 6 figures. So kindly take your trivializing nonsense of what I'm saying elsewhere. You can have a professional relationship, or you can have a romantic one. One often starts before the other, and that's ok so long as consent and power are balanced through that progression. But blending of the two under ambiguous circumstances enables horrific abuse, and I won't pretend otherwise just because people fantasize themselves as the boss that gets to date everyone attractive in their office.
  - 6y ago