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So the article maybe does an ok job with the expectations set by the main title, but then there's this subtitle: "social science points to a better way" and the

So the article maybe does an ok job with the expectations set by the main title, but then there's this subtitle: "social science points to a better way" and the article totally flops on that end with nothing more than an end paragraph blurb of less-than-insightful opinions from the article's author. edit: Also FTA: "the researchers found that an anxious attachment style was a particularly strong antecedent of the tendency for interpersonal victimhood." And from another comment I posted below: "When a child feels safe, seen, and soothed by their parent in a consistent way, they are able to form a secure attachment to that parent. However, when a parent is available and attuned at times and insensitive or intrusive at others, the child is more likely to experience an anxious ambivalent attachment pattern"[1] This is a valid and important area of inquiry and I wish the article did a better job on this front. [1]https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201904/how-anxious-attachment-style-affects-relationships https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/2...

john_moscow 6y ago
I think it gives as much hint as you can without causing a massive wave of outrage: >But there’s the thing: If socialization processes can instill in individuals a victimhood mindset, then surely the very same processes can instill in people a personal growth mindset. What if we all learned at a young age that our traumas don’t have to define us? That it’s possible to have experienced a trauma and for victimhood to not form the core of our identity? That it’s even possible to grow from trauma, to become a better person, to use the experiences we’ve had in our lives toward working to instill hope and possibility to others who were in a similar situation? What if we all learned that it’s possible to have healthy pride for an in-group without having out-group hate? Basically, focus on your strong sides rather than weaknesses. Find people that make you happy and spend time with them doing things that make all of you happy, instead of focusing your attention on those who offend you. Pretty sound advice, IMO.

john_moscow 6y ago

I think it gives as much hint as you can without causing a massive wave of outrage: >But there’s the thing: If socialization processes can instill in individuals a victimhood mindset, then surely the very same processes can instill in people a personal growth mindset. What if we all learned at a young age that our traumas don’t have to define us? That it’s possible to have experienced a trauma and for victimhood to not form the core of our identity? That it’s even possible to grow from trauma, to become a better person, to use the experiences we’ve had in our lives toward working to instill hope and possibility to others who were in a similar situation? What if we all learned that it’s possible to have healthy pride for an in-group without having out-group hate? Basically, focus on your strong sides rather than weaknesses. Find people that make you happy and spend time with them doing things that make all of you happy, instead of focusing your attention on those who offend you. Pretty sound advice, IMO.