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I think I need to go back to the office just to get a better separation between work and home. Working during the week I'm helping with kids and house stuff, an

I think I need to go back to the office just to get a better separation between work and home. Working during the week I'm helping with kids and house stuff, and if I have nothing to do for a few hours on the weekend I'm dialling in to work to finish stuff off I should have done during the week. Its all becoming a blur and I'm not doing either role well.

m463 6y ago
My experience seems to be similar to yours. I think this may be one of those weird paradoxes of life. I wonder if in 5 years when (if?) people are back in the office we will pine away for these times. It might be a good time to set appropriate boundaries, self-manage better, and make the most of the situation. I look at it as maybe practice for retirement. I think a lot of people have these retirement dreams that are poorly imagined and when the time comes they'll mismanage their time left. Maybe getting this right could end up being retirement with a job you like instead of "any old" retirement thing to pass the time.
tetha 6y ago
As much as I oppose forcing people into the office, there is nothing intrinsically bad about being in the office. Two guys from our team are in a similar situation as you are and we've agreed on them taking up our office spots permanently. It's still simple to control and track contact in that situation in case an infection occurs. But all in all, it's been a great boost for their mental well being.
- nogridbag 6y ago
  Sounds like those guys are either fortunate to be able to live on one persons's salary or they feel comfortable returning the kids to daycare.
bojan 6y ago
How do you both have kids and have nothing to do for a few hours on the weekend?
- alluro2 6y ago
  From 9:30pm, when both kids are asleep, I can spend 2-3h feeling exhausted, trying to get myself to do something, trying not to fall asleep and failing at it. It's fun.
nogridbag 6y ago
Same. I pretty much spend the whole day with our daughter between cleaning, preparing food, feeding, and playing. My wife had multiple consulting roles that required her to be on calls frequently. It's chaotic when both of us have conflicting meetings. I honestly don't know how other people are managing. My working hours are 11PM to 5AM every day for the last few months in addition to attempting to be responsive on Slack and attending required meetings during "normal" hours. Some days I'm only operating on 1-2 hours of sleep. It's not really sustainable or healthy.
SAI_Peregrinus 6y ago
Set alarms, for starting work, stopping work, lunch, end of lunch, etc. Keep strictly to the schedule. Block out your working hours on your calendars, both work and personal. Set up things like Slack to automatically mark you as AFK outside working hours. Never use personal devices for work, or work devices for personal stuff. Basically create strict domain separation, to prevent this blending.
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m463 6y ago

My experience seems to be similar to yours. I think this may be one of those weird paradoxes of life. I wonder if in 5 years when (if?) people are back in the office we will pine away for these times. It might be a good time to set appropriate boundaries, self-manage better, and make the most of the situation. I look at it as maybe practice for retirement. I think a lot of people have these retirement dreams that are poorly imagined and when the time comes they'll mismanage their time left. Maybe getting this right could end up being retirement with a job you like instead of "any old" retirement thing to pass the time.

tetha 6y ago

As much as I oppose forcing people into the office, there is nothing intrinsically bad about being in the office. Two guys from our team are in a similar situation as you are and we've agreed on them taking up our office spots permanently. It's still simple to control and track contact in that situation in case an infection occurs. But all in all, it's been a great boost for their mental well being.

nogridbag 6y ago
Sounds like those guys are either fortunate to be able to live on one persons's salary or they feel comfortable returning the kids to daycare.

bojan 6y ago

How do you both have kids and have nothing to do for a few hours on the weekend?

alluro2 6y ago
From 9:30pm, when both kids are asleep, I can spend 2-3h feeling exhausted, trying to get myself to do something, trying not to fall asleep and failing at it. It's fun.

nogridbag 6y ago

Same. I pretty much spend the whole day with our daughter between cleaning, preparing food, feeding, and playing. My wife had multiple consulting roles that required her to be on calls frequently. It's chaotic when both of us have conflicting meetings. I honestly don't know how other people are managing. My working hours are 11PM to 5AM every day for the last few months in addition to attempting to be responsive on Slack and attending required meetings during "normal" hours. Some days I'm only operating on 1-2 hours of sleep. It's not really sustainable or healthy.

SAI_Peregrinus 6y ago

Set alarms, for starting work, stopping work, lunch, end of lunch, etc. Keep strictly to the schedule. Block out your working hours on your calendars, both work and personal. Set up things like Slack to automatically mark you as AFK outside working hours. Never use personal devices for work, or work devices for personal stuff. Basically create strict domain separation, to prevent this blending.

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