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I was let go but I found that I worked a lot longer as it was harder to get things done with two kids in the background. Even as my wife struggled to keep them
by chrisgd 6y ago
I was let go but I found that I worked a lot longer as it was harder to get things done with two kids in the background. Even as my wife struggled to keep them away and let me work, inevitably I felt the need to help her or help the older one with online school. As far as telling people that I wasn’t available at certain times, that just didn’t seem to be an option.
- harlanji 6y agoWhat didn’t work about telling people that you weren’t available at certain times? I’ve had this feeling as well, but in practice I find that people either respect my boundary or try to get a reason and then argue with the reason—the latter type now just send me the signal that I don’t want to depend on people like this anymore and that I should make space for new people. Asking more to trigger reflection than for an answer, rhetorically I think that’d be called. Best wishes. (Ps. It’s true that I’m homeless, if you check my history, and I don’t feel that’s an indication of having boundaries not being sustainable, I think I just had a lot of old garbage from being weak that lead me here but I’m more likely to overcome it with this approach, even if it’s slower).
- chrisgd 6y agoI was in finance. Telling a senior level person about needing my own time jeopardizes my bonus. Which was 50% of my total comp