I only kind of wanted kids. at 38, I sort of gave up on the idea. Wife was still gungho...so rounds 7, 8, and 9 of invitro fertilization it was. That got us our

I only kind of wanted kids. at 38, I sort of gave up on the idea. Wife was still gungho...so rounds 7, 8, and 9 of invitro fertilization it was. That got us our two sons (following MANY miscarriages). Honestly the whole thing was much harder/worse for my wife. I'm a bit autistic so, was a bit unemotional/logical about it all. She was a mess the whole time. I wasn't sure about being a dad. Now, I'd kill anyone who tried to take it away from me. I never realized the full gamet of life experience being a dad brought. How much love you can have for these little critters. I'm 40 now. My oldest is 3 and youngest 1.5. I've had a lot of depression in my life, and a lot of things I've regretted. My kids will never be one of those. Knowing what I know, and never having them, definitely would be the biggest regret ever. Sure, some people aren't meant for parenthood, I see it all the time. We have relatives who neglect their kids, or let them ride a 4-wheeler without a helmet (to the point where one is in a wheel chair and is mentally challenged... I used to play video games w/ him when he was 11, now its hard to keep a conversation going). So, if you think you would be neglectful and not a good parent then don't be one. The world has enough shitty ones. But if you think for a moment you could be a good dad, then you'll never realize the amount of growing you'll go through once you become one, the perspective you'll gain. It's truly life changing.