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These lifestyles, as the author seems to point towards and not consummate, are the consequence of millennials being lonely, not poor.

Bootwizard 6y ago
I would say you're wrong. I know this is anectdata but I'm a non-single millenial, and my girlfriend and I have decided to never have kids because we value our own happiness and wellbeing too much to sacrifice it raising a child. We would be happy to live this type of lifestyle. Edit: and it has nothing to do with our income. We're both 6 figure engineers.
- scns 6y ago
  Your girlfriend might regret it when she is too old to have kids.
- polotics 6y ago
  May I suggest your understanding of the word "happiness" will change as you age? My happiness at 25 is not the same as at 50. As a male I guess society is on your side and you can be a late father if you find a willing younger partner. For your girlfriend however it's no dice: at 50 and childless I assume earlier happiness may taste different.
  - ReactiveJelly 6y ago
    This is a big "may" to put on someone else.
- tolbish 6y ago
  How many years have you been with your girlfriend? My interpretation of your answer is different depending on if you say something like 3-5 years versus 10+ years.
- chadcmulligan 6y ago
  are you in your 20's? at some time in the next few years your girlfriend may change her mind.
  - Bootwizard 6y ago
    Yes, we are in our mid 20s
    - chadcmulligan 6y ago
      my daughters about the same age, and she's gone from never having kids to the opposite in the space of a few years. I recommend it, it makes your life chaotic and costs money, but its the best thing in the world, you'll never be the same. Think about how you'd be in your 50's or later with no kids, I don't know anyone that said they're glad they didn't have kids, but I do know a few that are sad they didn't. Just a random internet guys opinion.
gremlinsinc 6y ago
I only kind of wanted kids. at 38, I sort of gave up on the idea. Wife was still gungho...so rounds 7, 8, and 9 of invitro fertilization it was. That got us our two sons (following MANY miscarriages). Honestly the whole thing was much harder/worse for my wife. I'm a bit autistic so, was a bit unemotional/logical about it all. She was a mess the whole time. I wasn't sure about being a dad. Now, I'd kill anyone who tried to take it away from me. I never realized the full gamet of life experience being a dad brought. How much love you can have for these little critters. I'm 40 now. My oldest is 3 and youngest 1.5. I've had a lot of depression in my life, and a lot of things I've regretted. My kids will never be one of those. Knowing what I know, and never having them, definitely would be the biggest regret ever. Sure, some people aren't meant for parenthood, I see it all the time. We have relatives who neglect their kids, or let them ride a 4-wheeler without a helmet (to the point where one is in a wheel chair and is mentally challenged... I used to play video games w/ him when he was 11, now its hard to keep a conversation going). So, if you think you would be neglectful and not a good parent then don't be one. The world has enough shitty ones. But if you think for a moment you could be a good dad, then you'll never realize the amount of growing you'll go through once you become one, the perspective you'll gain. It's truly life changing.

Bootwizard 6y ago

I would say you're wrong. I know this is anectdata but I'm a non-single millenial, and my girlfriend and I have decided to never have kids because we value our own happiness and wellbeing too much to sacrifice it raising a child. We would be happy to live this type of lifestyle. Edit: and it has nothing to do with our income. We're both 6 figure engineers.

scns 6y ago
Your girlfriend might regret it when she is too old to have kids.
polotics 6y ago
May I suggest your understanding of the word "happiness" will change as you age? My happiness at 25 is not the same as at 50. As a male I guess society is on your side and you can be a late father if you find a willing younger partner. For your girlfriend however it's no dice: at 50 and childless I assume earlier happiness may taste different.
- ReactiveJelly 6y ago
  This is a big "may" to put on someone else.
tolbish 6y ago
How many years have you been with your girlfriend? My interpretation of your answer is different depending on if you say something like 3-5 years versus 10+ years.
chadcmulligan 6y ago
are you in your 20's? at some time in the next few years your girlfriend may change her mind.
- Bootwizard 6y ago
  Yes, we are in our mid 20s
  - chadcmulligan 6y ago
    my daughters about the same age, and she's gone from never having kids to the opposite in the space of a few years. I recommend it, it makes your life chaotic and costs money, but its the best thing in the world, you'll never be the same. Think about how you'd be in your 50's or later with no kids, I don't know anyone that said they're glad they didn't have kids, but I do know a few that are sad they didn't. Just a random internet guys opinion.

gremlinsinc 6y ago

I only kind of wanted kids. at 38, I sort of gave up on the idea. Wife was still gungho...so rounds 7, 8, and 9 of invitro fertilization it was. That got us our two sons (following MANY miscarriages). Honestly the whole thing was much harder/worse for my wife. I'm a bit autistic so, was a bit unemotional/logical about it all. She was a mess the whole time. I wasn't sure about being a dad. Now, I'd kill anyone who tried to take it away from me. I never realized the full gamet of life experience being a dad brought. How much love you can have for these little critters. I'm 40 now. My oldest is 3 and youngest 1.5. I've had a lot of depression in my life, and a lot of things I've regretted. My kids will never be one of those. Knowing what I know, and never having them, definitely would be the biggest regret ever. Sure, some people aren't meant for parenthood, I see it all the time. We have relatives who neglect their kids, or let them ride a 4-wheeler without a helmet (to the point where one is in a wheel chair and is mentally challenged... I used to play video games w/ him when he was 11, now its hard to keep a conversation going). So, if you think you would be neglectful and not a good parent then don't be one. The world has enough shitty ones. But if you think for a moment you could be a good dad, then you'll never realize the amount of growing you'll go through once you become one, the perspective you'll gain. It's truly life changing.