I think the obvious solution is to give users power over who can comment on their stuff. My Facebook feed could easily pass as a “kind social network” because I

I think the obvious solution is to give users power over who can comment on their stuff. My Facebook feed could easily pass as a “kind social network” because I only follow blood bowl interest groups and only have friends I actually like in the real world. Don’t get me wrong, I too had a friendslist full of anyone I’d ever met, I followed news and stuff like that. And it drove me to the point where I was ready to quit Facebook. Then I got into blood bowl and needed Facebook for our national league, and I had to figure out how to make social networking not suck. The answer was to remove all the people I didn’t actually care about. These days my feed is relatively slow, and usually rather boring, but I use Facebook more than ever because of my blood bowl interest groups. These groups too are moderates in a way that would get the average Twitter commenter banned by their first post. Sure we might as well use some phpBB thing, and we might as well use IRC instead of discord, would be nice for a privacy and anti-advertising concern, but Facebook is where people are.