Frankly, I consider us lucky to have a place where it's only as bad as you've described, since at this point you're getting down to borderline unavoidable quali

Frankly, I consider us lucky to have a place where it's only as bad as you've described, since at this point you're getting down to borderline unavoidable qualities of human communication. In most other communities, there are no carefully chosen words, and downvotes/disagreements are primarily petty, rather than attempts to address pettiness.