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> and I've been told I will potentially pay more since I make more money. On the surface this strikes me as insane, but from the perspective of the opposite si

> and I've been told I will potentially pay more since I make more money. On the surface this strikes me as insane, but from the perspective of the opposite situation it sort of makes sense (e.g. if the poster's income fell it makes sense they would pay less in alimony). It might be a bias against alimony in general, but it seems strange that alimony would increase post-divorce.

01100011 6y ago
The reasoning is that I have a duty to provide her with the standard of living established during the marriage. I was not able to previously pay her enough to give her the standard of living she was accustomed to. Now that I make more, I may be asked to pay more to improve her standard of living. My case is somewhat complicated. I foolishly signed a bad agreement on the advice of a disinterested lawyer because I just wanted to get my divorce over with(after dragging on for 18 months due to an incompetent and biased mediator at the beginning). The ex has 'Steve Jobs cancer', although she had the primary tumor removed at 18, years before I met her. They found more tumors years later during a medical procedure needed because of her poor self-care, and we went through 6 years of seeing an oncologist only to be told that her tumors were shrinking and she would live a long life and die of something else. After I asked for a divorce, she got a small town doc to declare her a cancer patient, incapable of working. It's bullshit, but it will cost me a lot of money to disprove now. I could go on and on about the unfairness in the legal system, but I'll just say that anyone thinking of getting married should understand what that entails. It's not about love, it's a legal contract. If you allow an exploitative relationship to exist, the state can step in and prevent you from escaping it. My ex is now 52. There is some precedent that a judge may deem I pay her until I retire in twenty years(or more, depending on the average retirement age in twenty or so years). We never had kids. I was a 21 year old virgin and in a religious cult(in which she grew up and brought me into) when we got married. She was 27 and knew what she was doing when she trapped me.
- strikelaserclaw 6y ago
  Jeez man, i thought no kid divorces were clean, guess i learned something new today.

01100011 6y ago

The reasoning is that I have a duty to provide her with the standard of living established during the marriage. I was not able to previously pay her enough to give her the standard of living she was accustomed to. Now that I make more, I may be asked to pay more to improve her standard of living. My case is somewhat complicated. I foolishly signed a bad agreement on the advice of a disinterested lawyer because I just wanted to get my divorce over with(after dragging on for 18 months due to an incompetent and biased mediator at the beginning). The ex has 'Steve Jobs cancer', although she had the primary tumor removed at 18, years before I met her. They found more tumors years later during a medical procedure needed because of her poor self-care, and we went through 6 years of seeing an oncologist only to be told that her tumors were shrinking and she would live a long life and die of something else. After I asked for a divorce, she got a small town doc to declare her a cancer patient, incapable of working. It's bullshit, but it will cost me a lot of money to disprove now. I could go on and on about the unfairness in the legal system, but I'll just say that anyone thinking of getting married should understand what that entails. It's not about love, it's a legal contract. If you allow an exploitative relationship to exist, the state can step in and prevent you from escaping it. My ex is now 52. There is some precedent that a judge may deem I pay her until I retire in twenty years(or more, depending on the average retirement age in twenty or so years). We never had kids. I was a 21 year old virgin and in a religious cult(in which she grew up and brought me into) when we got married. She was 27 and knew what she was doing when she trapped me.

strikelaserclaw 6y ago
Jeez man, i thought no kid divorces were clean, guess i learned something new today.