Forgiveness can be succinctly summed up as putting something behind you by deciding that it's over and you're moving on. I think the key phrase you perhaps miss

Forgiveness can be succinctly summed up as putting something behind you by deciding that it's over and you're moving on. I think the key phrase you perhaps missed in GPs comment is: "...that you have in large measure conscious choice over the way you feel and can will it differently" They then contrast this with gathering victimhood cards (my favorite example of this is the scene from Scrubs where Turk and Elliot are arguing over whether black doctors or women doctors have it harder, then both agree that their black woman colleague has it worst of all), which I think you would agree is the opposite of forgiveness. I'm not sure I agree with their tone about victimhood cards, as another way to phrase that would be that some people have traumas they haven't fully processed. Sounds different when cast in that light.