The advice I've been given is forgiveness + boundaries. This book is usually recommended [1], but you can discover your own style of setting boundaries by work

The advice I've been given is forgiveness + boundaries. This book is usually recommended [1], but you can discover your own style of setting boundaries by working with a therapist. (it will need to be tailored to your situation) [1] https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Control/dp/0310351804/ https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Updated-Expanded-When-Cont...