This is true. No one was ever helper just because society said to him "do it". Which is why it must proceed through "understanding": you must clearly see the s

This is true. No one was ever helper just because society said to him "do it". Which is why it must proceed through "understanding": you must clearly see the sitation for what it is, from both perspectives: yours and theirs. The ego can get locked in a victim mentality and this will blind you from being able to see the truth about the situation.