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If you take the high road while they consistently take the low road long enough, eventually you'll feel like a complete push over who lacks self-respect. I per
by scottious 6y ago
If you take the high road while they consistently take the low road long enough, eventually you'll feel like a complete push over who lacks self-respect.
I personally have reached a breaking point in which I realize that if I don't do something different, then the people who've abused me will continue abusing me while all while I take the high road and try to be the better person.
I wouldn't call it revenge, because that sounds malicious. Let's call it tit-for-tat or "taking my ball and going home". If you repeatedly abuse me, you're out of my life. Call it revenge or call it whatever you want, but I'm simply not going to stand for it.
- TeaDrunk 6y agoI don’t think that is not taking the high road. When facing abuse, taking the high road is indeed not responding to the abuse with anything more than a firm, non malicious, self protecting establishment and enforcement of your personal boundaries. Refusing to respond at all and allowing abuse to continue can be construed as taking the high road but it isn’t the only way to healthily manage toxic people. (Revenge imo is when one actively moves to harm an abusive person.)
- watwut 6y ago> Refusing to respond at all and allowing abuse to continue can be construed as taking the high road but it isn’t the only way to healthily manage toxic people. In my experience, this is what people usually expect when they talk about "taking the high road" or "being the bigger person". It has zero to do with "healthily managing toxic people" and everything to do with comfort of whoever does not want to deal with conflict at your expense. I had to unlearn these quite late, when I finally figured this out.
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