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Find a therapist. They will help you. But one way to deal with anxiety is to fully confront it and go straight through. Let the anxiety overwhelm you and then

by sjg007 6y ago

Find a therapist. They will help you. But one way to deal with anxiety is to fully confront it and go straight through. Let the anxiety overwhelm you and then come out the other side of it. But I’d recommend doing that with a therapist but there are books too that will help. Basically imagine the worse case scenario and what would happen. Would you get fired? Demoted? Loss of face? Laughed out of the room? Most likely the worst case is not that bad. You are clearly a good programmer/developer so think of that rather than the job you have. Imagine yourself in a bunch of terrible jobs. Do those define you?

tracer4201 6y ago
Thanks. Your response helps.
- sjg007 6y ago
  Thanks! You’re welcome. Glad to have done something helpful. A key part of it is to write down on paper what you think will happen, rate it on a scale of 100% and then provide evidence for that claim and then assess how likely is it that the bad thing would happen. The key part is to write this stuff down. Chronic anxiety can lead to depression etc... this happens when people feel trapped. You have no debt so I’d say you aren’t stuck in a job if you really hate it. If you are in the Bay Area, I’d recommend the feeling good institute. They have intensive programs if you are up for them that take a week. I’ve never done one but I follow their podcast with David Burns etc... Some anxieties are things we have to confront that we put off. Almost like phobias. So if you are say anxious about being in conflict you need to practice being in conflict and visualize it. You can role play these things and do role reversal etc... lots of great tools to learn. One thing in business is that if you identify a systematic or existential risk, you shouldn’t shoulder it alone. The business should have a team and a process around the risk. Then an individual can only manage so much risk and needs to delegate etc... or at least give it some prioritization. If the business can’t do that then you have to ask yourself if you want to be in that business and if you have the means/role to get them to where they should be. These are kind skills you can learn on the job, with a performance coach, or in therapy! You should be able to push back on unreasonable demands.

by sjg007 6y ago

tracer4201 6y ago

Thanks. Your response helps.

sjg007 6y ago
Thanks! You’re welcome. Glad to have done something helpful. A key part of it is to write down on paper what you think will happen, rate it on a scale of 100% and then provide evidence for that claim and then assess how likely is it that the bad thing would happen. The key part is to write this stuff down. Chronic anxiety can lead to depression etc... this happens when people feel trapped. You have no debt so I’d say you aren’t stuck in a job if you really hate it. If you are in the Bay Area, I’d recommend the feeling good institute. They have intensive programs if you are up for them that take a week. I’ve never done one but I follow their podcast with David Burns etc... Some anxieties are things we have to confront that we put off. Almost like phobias. So if you are say anxious about being in conflict you need to practice being in conflict and visualize it. You can role play these things and do role reversal etc... lots of great tools to learn. One thing in business is that if you identify a systematic or existential risk, you shouldn’t shoulder it alone. The business should have a team and a process around the risk. Then an individual can only manage so much risk and needs to delegate etc... or at least give it some prioritization. If the business can’t do that then you have to ask yourself if you want to be in that business and if you have the means/role to get them to where they should be. These are kind skills you can learn on the job, with a performance coach, or in therapy! You should be able to push back on unreasonable demands.