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Maybe it's semantics (I haven't read your link yet) but shame isn't similar to shyness, modesty or blushing to me. The later 3 are things I think are good thing
by Exuma 6y ago
Maybe it's semantics (I haven't read your link yet) but shame isn't similar to shyness, modesty or blushing to me. The later 3 are things I think are good things. Shame to me (maybe my definition isn't correct) is equivalent to punishing one's self for a mistake, usually over a long period of time, and usually in an overly dramatic way (like the OP's article). It happened when he was a kid just trying to do honest work, he felt wrong about it, something terrible happened that wasn't his fault... so as harsh as it is, I still stand by "get over it."
I also said by the way "you have a good moral fabric" which goes along with that statement. If someone is say, a rapist, then I suppose shame is a great emotion to have, because they're upset that they lack what other people have, which is a working control of emotion and a sound mind. For most people (who are good people), I feel like shame is something that does nothing but inhibit life.
- dredmorbius 6y agoThe common thread is that all the behaviours relate to Darwin's grouping concept of self-awareness, and further serve to act in an inhibitory fashion. There might be other forms of positive or reinforcing senses or emotions also reflecting self-awareness: pride, confidence, self-assurance, patience, say, though some of these move from emotion to personality. I'd also caution about presuming Darwin had this all right, He was the first (AFAIK) to write on emotion as evolutionary adaptation, and certainly made errors or omissions. Classification of emotions remains very inexact. But the discoverer of natural selection deduced the evolutionary role of emotion, suggested a deep significance and innateness of them, and specifically names and discusses the emotion you've very lightly dismissed. You should probably hear him out.
- Exuma 6y agoThanks, I'll check it out then.