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I have friends with kids on all side of this coin: Group A is tech parents with screen time control ( uses parental controls) Group B non tech parents with p

I have friends with kids on all side of this coin: Group A is tech parents with screen time control ( uses parental controls) Group B non tech parents with physical screen time ( takes phones away) Group C parents that let the child decide ( kids have full control over own devices) And without a doubt one can notice developmental diviations in the children av group c. They are not very active, hard to socialize etc. Group bs children are usually way more phydicsl about things. But bottom line is that tech is negatively impacting children if left unsupervised. And i honestly think much of that comes down to design patterns in apps. We make stupid apps be addictive to adults to optimize engagement and these same physiological hooks work on children except way more potent.

skissane 6y ago
From personal experience as a parent, I've learnt that withdrawing computer/tablet/YouTube access is a good strategy to improve behaviour. Our seven year old went from almost being thrown out of swimming lessons due to naughtiness, to near perfect behaviour, once we started saying "if you don't behave at swimming you are having no computer for the rest of the day" and it became clear that we really meant it. Similarly, he kept on being sent home from school early for misbehaviour. The school introduced this system where the teachers give him "thumbs up" for being behaved and "thumbs down" for not. We told him that he has to come home every school day with at least five thumbs up and no thumbs down to get his computer, and we demonstrated to him that we meant it. And since then, every day he gets at least five thumbs up and no thumbs down. (We have to ask the staff when we pick him up, because we know otherwise he'll just claim to get five thumbs up even if he didn't.)
- op00to 6y ago
  The kid isn’t learning to not act up at swimming, it’s learning not to act up in front of you.
  - watwut 6y ago
    The other kids at swimming lessons, other kids at school, instructor and teachers all likely appreciate not-perfectly-self-motivated improvement in behavior all the same. It definitely is much better the the kid who misbehaves regardless of whether someone is looking or not. Because this way, swimming lesson continue and they can enjoy swimming. School goes on and they don't have to sit and wait till teacher deals with this one kid.

skissane 6y ago

From personal experience as a parent, I've learnt that withdrawing computer/tablet/YouTube access is a good strategy to improve behaviour. Our seven year old went from almost being thrown out of swimming lessons due to naughtiness, to near perfect behaviour, once we started saying "if you don't behave at swimming you are having no computer for the rest of the day" and it became clear that we really meant it. Similarly, he kept on being sent home from school early for misbehaviour. The school introduced this system where the teachers give him "thumbs up" for being behaved and "thumbs down" for not. We told him that he has to come home every school day with at least five thumbs up and no thumbs down to get his computer, and we demonstrated to him that we meant it. And since then, every day he gets at least five thumbs up and no thumbs down. (We have to ask the staff when we pick him up, because we know otherwise he'll just claim to get five thumbs up even if he didn't.)

op00to 6y ago
The kid isn’t learning to not act up at swimming, it’s learning not to act up in front of you.
- watwut 6y ago
  The other kids at swimming lessons, other kids at school, instructor and teachers all likely appreciate not-perfectly-self-motivated improvement in behavior all the same. It definitely is much better the the kid who misbehaves regardless of whether someone is looking or not. Because this way, swimming lesson continue and they can enjoy swimming. School goes on and they don't have to sit and wait till teacher deals with this one kid.