I just replied at the bottom of the thread. I'm not trying to single you out. Everyone has their part to play, but someone has to go first. [As an aside, I j

I just replied at the bottom of the thread. I'm not trying to single you out. Everyone has their part to play, but someone has to go first. [As an aside, I just realized this is where a neutral arbiter can be valuable, someone who can say calmly what either side can't. I am thinking specifically about a STTNG episode.]