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It's true that drugs like MDMA or Mephedrone can cause an outpuring of feelings very much similar to what you feel when really loving someone (in my time in uni

by dreen 6y ago

It's true that drugs like MDMA or Mephedrone can cause an outpuring of feelings very much similar to what you feel when really loving someone (in my time in university, Mephedrone used to be called "The Big Love" by partaking students, it was legal then). However, a sober examination of those feelings after some time may reveal to you an underlying "fakeness", in the sense that what you were showing was not really a true image, but rather a caricature of your feelings. It does not mean that you do not genuinely like the person you declared "your true soulmate" while under the influence, but these words really mean nothing unless spoken sober. As sooon as you start messing with your brain chemistry, everything you say is being stripped of meaning as it becomes more driven by emotions and less by reason. At some point it's like trying to interpret dreams - there might be some emotional content there, but its not applicable in the real world more than just a cause for reflection (which is good) to find some true insights.

a_imho 6y ago
In vino veritas, is there a consensus whether under the influence is fake and being sober is the not fake state of things?
teknopaul 6y ago
"everything you say is being stripped of meaning as it becomes more driven by emotions and less by reason" Only if you believe emotions have no meaning. An emotional response is a valid one, even if it does not help your startup. Not all human affairs are about profit maximisation. Reason is not the best tool in your toolbox to use if you want to fall in love. mdma probably is.
- dreen 6y ago
  Dont equate reason with capitalism, thats just silly. MDMA may cause you to experience a something and it might feel profound, but only through sober reflection on that experience are you able to learn anything. Don't get me wrong, I think these substances are worth trying out. I just wouldn't want to fall in love through a drug, it would not feel genuine.
- donothing 6y ago
  Yeah, I really don't get what's with all these Data-from-Star-Trek style discussions of drugs and emotions and love. I couldn't believe this was the top comment... who on Earth is using reason and logic to fall in love?
SuoDuanDao 6y ago
My own - limited - experience with substances like these was that they didn't so much cause an upswell of positive feelings as that they suppressed their usual inhibitors. Perhaps it's because I was very involved in theatre at a young age, but I feel I can manufacture that kind of affection endogenously quite reliably, what stops me from doing so more is a host of complex counterfactors. It's these counterfactors that I feel substances like these suppressed.
- R0b0t1 6y ago
  A lot of pathways (most? incl. muscle movement) in the brain are inhibitory, not excitatory, so that makes sense. Your example of it occurring at a higher level is intriguing.
  - SuoDuanDao 6y ago
    Interesting! I think I had heard that but I hadn't connected it to my subjective experience before. Cool to know that I may have been experiencing what was literally happening on a physiological level.
raun1 6y ago
I would strongly argue against your claim that altering brain chemistry strips experience of meaning. That is a highly biased statement based on a few strong, and IMO false, assumptions.
- dreen 6y ago
  Right, maybe I worded that too strongly, it doesn't make the experience useless. I wanted to emphasise that even if you experience something that feels profound in an altered state, you should still reflect on it and examine it when sober, and only then you can truly learn something useful.
  - vladvasiliu 6y ago
    I think this answer is quite different from your original post in that it doesn't deny the value of the experiences lived under the influence. I think it's very important for those experiences to be examined while sober, just like experiences lived under any other kind of altered state, even "natural" ones - say while extremely angry. As SuoDuanDao said in his response, I think there's a question of "barriers" going down while under MDMA. Sure, there are things you do under its influence that you wouldn't have done sober. Maybe things that you would never have done. But isn't that the point? It allows you to try things you wouldn't have tried otherwise and see the effects. Of course, sober reflexion is required. But this allows you to have a different perspective on what is possible. Something I see often mentioned in discussions around MDMA is its effects on social anxiety. Some people find it difficult to be open. I for one am fairly taciturn, don't talk much. For such people seeing what is possible may allow them to rethink why they do or don't do certain things in their day to day lives and maybe adapt their actions.
    - dreen 6y ago
      Yeah I agree with what you're saying, and I never meant that what you say in altered state is stripped of meaning completely, just that the further you go and the more barriers you loose the more meaning is lost, because you are being overwhelmed by those emotions.
bluntfang 6y ago
Anecdata: I had a roommate/good friend with a substance abuse problem, specifically escapism via MDMA and alcohol and sometimes LSD. MDMA use at least once a week, sometimes up to 2-3 times a week, depending on how long their party lasted. Blackout level alcohol use ~5 times a week. LSD use biweekly or monthly. They knew their lifestyle was hurting our relationship and could only come to terms with that while rolling, but when sober was unable to come to terms with their problems. It was impossible to take their gushing of emotions and how much they loved and how much they missed their relationship with me and asking if what they were doing was OK with me etc while under the influence. It felt fake, because their sober experience didn't reflect their gushing of emotions. I'm sure the extreme use had something to do with this, but I really have a hard time finding MDMA valuable, for fear that I'll get vulnerable say something that I can't back up in my sober living. It's so hurtful to hear strong emotions that don't last.
- dreen 6y ago
  I'm sorry to hear that, as someone who has had a very close family member succumb and pass away due to alcoholism, the worst feeling for me was that there is nothing you can do unless the person wants to change. However, all substances are ultimately out there for people to try to enjoy responsibly, in the right company. As long as you understand that what you say and do under the influence isn't necessarily genuine you should be able to relax enough and let your guard down to enjoy it. Again, the company you're in matters a lot, as well as the fact that you're not excused from your actions if not sober. It's like when watching porn, you realise that's not how real sex looks like. If you did, you would acquire some very unhealthy preconceptions. But one can still enjoy it responsibly.
- cleansingfire 6y ago
  I agree. I think this is one of the hardest problems of dealing with addicts. I had a friend who would drink and go on crying jags. I took it as cathartic, & was loving & supportive, but after the same emotions & expressions came out many times with no sense of progress or change I realized there was no growth coming from it. I wasn't being supportive, but enabling. The crying stopped when I stopped participating.
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nsilvestri 6y ago
Not that I necessarily disagree with the conclusion, but your argument would suggest that anyone using antidepressants or other medications in order to function "normally" aren't experiencing real emotion.
- jsjohnst 6y ago
  > but your argument would suggest that anyone using antidepressants or other medications in order to function "normally" aren't experiencing real emotion. But are they really feeling their “own real emotions”? Or are the drugs sedating / uplifting their emotions unnaturally to make them more “normal”. Maybe I’m focusing on the word “real” too much, but I think one could legitimately state that while under the influence of medication, your emotions might not be natural/real to who you are.
  - justforyou 6y ago
    Emotions are a byproduct of a myriad of endogenous and exogenous inputs, both chemical and circumstantial. There is no such thing as owned real emotions.
- R0b0t1 6y ago
  There's a lot of people who believe that to be true. My take on it is it is true, but there isn't any moral issue with doing it. I'm just a bit disappointed I can find a good doctor to give me drugs to make me happy.
donothing 6y ago
What a load of bullshit. It saddens me to see this as the top comment. Things said while under the influence of any drug mean nothing? Everything you say is stripped of meaning? Hmm, alright. You know that sleep deprivation produces an intoxicated state that is, by many measures, nearly identical to drunkenness? Hope you never said anything important without your full 9 hours! Ever said anything important under a state of stress? While angry? Depressed? I know HN loves the idea that everything is a binary black and white, but reality couldn't be further from that. Sure, if your friend is experimenting with ketamine and claims that you're a time traveling dragon and he must eliminate you, you should probably get a second sober opinion. But stuff like MDMA? Especially for safe doses (which is the only way people should consume MDMA in my opinion) you're not someone else, you're just you, but more empathetic and loving. Not to mention that love is the opposite of a rational decision for many people. I'm sure people in SF find optimized partners to save on rent and DINK their way up the capitalist ladder, but in the rest of the world love is often the opposite of rational. Imagine falling in love as a poor girl with no access to birth control: near suicide for your future. Heck, I'm an educated white male in a first world country and I 'threw away' a year of my life chasing love and it was awesome and hell yeah I'd do it again today. If I tossed it into a spreadsheet I'd never have done it. So yes, drugs are intoxicating. But so are a shit ton of other things. Life is life: you do things when you're angry, tired, horny, happy, drunk, and hell yes, it all means something!

by dreen 6y ago

a_imho 6y ago

In vino veritas, is there a consensus whether under the influence is fake and being sober is the not fake state of things?

teknopaul 6y ago

"everything you say is being stripped of meaning as it becomes more driven by emotions and less by reason" Only if you believe emotions have no meaning. An emotional response is a valid one, even if it does not help your startup. Not all human affairs are about profit maximisation. Reason is not the best tool in your toolbox to use if you want to fall in love. mdma probably is.

dreen 6y ago
Dont equate reason with capitalism, thats just silly. MDMA may cause you to experience a something and it might feel profound, but only through sober reflection on that experience are you able to learn anything. Don't get me wrong, I think these substances are worth trying out. I just wouldn't want to fall in love through a drug, it would not feel genuine.
donothing 6y ago
Yeah, I really don't get what's with all these Data-from-Star-Trek style discussions of drugs and emotions and love. I couldn't believe this was the top comment... who on Earth is using reason and logic to fall in love?

SuoDuanDao 6y ago

My own - limited - experience with substances like these was that they didn't so much cause an upswell of positive feelings as that they suppressed their usual inhibitors. Perhaps it's because I was very involved in theatre at a young age, but I feel I can manufacture that kind of affection endogenously quite reliably, what stops me from doing so more is a host of complex counterfactors. It's these counterfactors that I feel substances like these suppressed.

R0b0t1 6y ago
A lot of pathways (most? incl. muscle movement) in the brain are inhibitory, not excitatory, so that makes sense. Your example of it occurring at a higher level is intriguing.
- SuoDuanDao 6y ago
  Interesting! I think I had heard that but I hadn't connected it to my subjective experience before. Cool to know that I may have been experiencing what was literally happening on a physiological level.

raun1 6y ago

I would strongly argue against your claim that altering brain chemistry strips experience of meaning. That is a highly biased statement based on a few strong, and IMO false, assumptions.

dreen 6y ago
Right, maybe I worded that too strongly, it doesn't make the experience useless. I wanted to emphasise that even if you experience something that feels profound in an altered state, you should still reflect on it and examine it when sober, and only then you can truly learn something useful.
- vladvasiliu 6y ago
  I think this answer is quite different from your original post in that it doesn't deny the value of the experiences lived under the influence. I think it's very important for those experiences to be examined while sober, just like experiences lived under any other kind of altered state, even "natural" ones - say while extremely angry. As SuoDuanDao said in his response, I think there's a question of "barriers" going down while under MDMA. Sure, there are things you do under its influence that you wouldn't have done sober. Maybe things that you would never have done. But isn't that the point? It allows you to try things you wouldn't have tried otherwise and see the effects. Of course, sober reflexion is required. But this allows you to have a different perspective on what is possible. Something I see often mentioned in discussions around MDMA is its effects on social anxiety. Some people find it difficult to be open. I for one am fairly taciturn, don't talk much. For such people seeing what is possible may allow them to rethink why they do or don't do certain things in their day to day lives and maybe adapt their actions.
  - dreen 6y ago
    Yeah I agree with what you're saying, and I never meant that what you say in altered state is stripped of meaning completely, just that the further you go and the more barriers you loose the more meaning is lost, because you are being overwhelmed by those emotions.

bluntfang 6y ago

Anecdata: I had a roommate/good friend with a substance abuse problem, specifically escapism via MDMA and alcohol and sometimes LSD. MDMA use at least once a week, sometimes up to 2-3 times a week, depending on how long their party lasted. Blackout level alcohol use ~5 times a week. LSD use biweekly or monthly. They knew their lifestyle was hurting our relationship and could only come to terms with that while rolling, but when sober was unable to come to terms with their problems. It was impossible to take their gushing of emotions and how much they loved and how much they missed their relationship with me and asking if what they were doing was OK with me etc while under the influence. It felt fake, because their sober experience didn't reflect their gushing of emotions. I'm sure the extreme use had something to do with this, but I really have a hard time finding MDMA valuable, for fear that I'll get vulnerable say something that I can't back up in my sober living. It's so hurtful to hear strong emotions that don't last.

dreen 6y ago
I'm sorry to hear that, as someone who has had a very close family member succumb and pass away due to alcoholism, the worst feeling for me was that there is nothing you can do unless the person wants to change. However, all substances are ultimately out there for people to try to enjoy responsibly, in the right company. As long as you understand that what you say and do under the influence isn't necessarily genuine you should be able to relax enough and let your guard down to enjoy it. Again, the company you're in matters a lot, as well as the fact that you're not excused from your actions if not sober. It's like when watching porn, you realise that's not how real sex looks like. If you did, you would acquire some very unhealthy preconceptions. But one can still enjoy it responsibly.
cleansingfire 6y ago
I agree. I think this is one of the hardest problems of dealing with addicts. I had a friend who would drink and go on crying jags. I took it as cathartic, & was loving & supportive, but after the same emotions & expressions came out many times with no sense of progress or change I realized there was no growth coming from it. I wasn't being supportive, but enabling. The crying stopped when I stopped participating.
6y ago

nsilvestri 6y ago

Not that I necessarily disagree with the conclusion, but your argument would suggest that anyone using antidepressants or other medications in order to function "normally" aren't experiencing real emotion.

jsjohnst 6y ago
> but your argument would suggest that anyone using antidepressants or other medications in order to function "normally" aren't experiencing real emotion. But are they really feeling their “own real emotions”? Or are the drugs sedating / uplifting their emotions unnaturally to make them more “normal”. Maybe I’m focusing on the word “real” too much, but I think one could legitimately state that while under the influence of medication, your emotions might not be natural/real to who you are.
- justforyou 6y ago
  Emotions are a byproduct of a myriad of endogenous and exogenous inputs, both chemical and circumstantial. There is no such thing as owned real emotions.
R0b0t1 6y ago
There's a lot of people who believe that to be true. My take on it is it is true, but there isn't any moral issue with doing it. I'm just a bit disappointed I can find a good doctor to give me drugs to make me happy.

donothing 6y ago

What a load of bullshit. It saddens me to see this as the top comment. Things said while under the influence of any drug mean nothing? Everything you say is stripped of meaning? Hmm, alright. You know that sleep deprivation produces an intoxicated state that is, by many measures, nearly identical to drunkenness? Hope you never said anything important without your full 9 hours! Ever said anything important under a state of stress? While angry? Depressed? I know HN loves the idea that everything is a binary black and white, but reality couldn't be further from that. Sure, if your friend is experimenting with ketamine and claims that you're a time traveling dragon and he must eliminate you, you should probably get a second sober opinion. But stuff like MDMA? Especially for safe doses (which is the only way people should consume MDMA in my opinion) you're not someone else, you're just you, but more empathetic and loving. Not to mention that love is the opposite of a rational decision for many people. I'm sure people in SF find optimized partners to save on rent and DINK their way up the capitalist ladder, but in the rest of the world love is often the opposite of rational. Imagine falling in love as a poor girl with no access to birth control: near suicide for your future. Heck, I'm an educated white male in a first world country and I 'threw away' a year of my life chasing love and it was awesome and hell yeah I'd do it again today. If I tossed it into a spreadsheet I'd never have done it. So yes, drugs are intoxicating. But so are a shit ton of other things. Life is life: you do things when you're angry, tired, horny, happy, drunk, and hell yes, it all means something!