Here are some I would like better: 1. Teach my kids how to become better at learning, and teach myself to minimize the urge to control them. 3. Marrying with

Here are some I would like better: 1. Teach my kids how to become better at learning, and teach myself to minimize the urge to control them. 3. Marrying with the goal of supporting the spouse in their self-actualization, no matter what that might be. Buying things is seldom self-actualization, but a distraction from that. 6. Taking a degree which motivates you (love the process, not the goal - a degree takes too long to just push through) I kind of, or absolutely agree, with the other ideas. Some of parent‘s ideas rest on the idea of gaining control over the future or other people (not even little kids can or should be controlled perfectly), or goals that are so far off that it’s unclear that one would ever reach them. Goals that are far off AND specific are more influenced by external factors than one‘s own doing - which is the very definition of gambling.