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I think the reaction you are seeing has to do with Attachment Theory used as a cudgel by speakers to allow narcissist and egotists to dismiss their shitty behav

I think the reaction you are seeing has to do with Attachment Theory used as a cudgel by speakers to allow narcissist and egotists to dismiss their shitty behavior. Esther Perel is a great example. She's like a modern day Ayn Rand who thinks listening to your partner is akin to cutting off your own arm. And she backs that up with wave after wave of attachment theory gibberish.

Nasrudith 6y ago
That sounds like an extension of Attachment Therapy as a tool for narcicists. It fits the same "narcissists looking to abuse children for not loving them like they believe they are entitled to - and the horrific death of the child from their actions is never their fault". That and associated discredited refrigerator mother trope for autism along with every pet theory whose only common thread is "not genetic". The legacy of bad ideas makes it questionable as a useful form of guidance especially when lacking more concrete successes analagous to eugenics as a pseudoscientific corruption of genetics.