Ask, rather than tell. We spend a tremendous amount of time telling, even yelling, over people who may say things we do not wish to hear. Rote responses appea

Ask, rather than tell. We spend a tremendous amount of time telling, even yelling, over people who may say things we do not wish to hear. Rote responses appear on our lips and it is no coincidence that those responses are ideal for getting people out of our way, leaving them to puzzle over unanswerable questions like "How do you know it won't get better?" Nobody truly knows that, but would you bet on it? Bet on it enough to suffer consequences? We do not ask that, we say, "a permanent solution to a temporary problem." The entire concept is surrounded by an interlocking complex of memes that very neatly steer us away from grappling with a thorny subject: the true suffering of others. That must be dismantled before we can begin to start gathering data.