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I've been diagnosed with BPD. I've seen three personal therapists and a couples therapist. They all helped and I learned some tricks from them, clarified thi

by raducu 6y ago

I've been diagnosed with BPD. I've seen three personal therapists and a couples therapist. They all helped and I learned some tricks from them, clarified things, my BPD symptoms have diminished, but they tend to do so with age without any therapy. All therapists sucked in the same regard -- they fail to follow through -- I've heard so many times "oh, for this issue I know this great exercise and this great technique, we'll practice, bla bla bla", only to forget about it by the next session.

dannyw 6y ago
Also a BPD. I see therapists on and off. I’ll do a session every two weeks and then drop off, sometimes I’ll find a new therapist because I want something new.
- raducu 6y ago
  That's not good and not bad. As far as I know, if you want to help with BPD by therapy, its better to have the same therapist, given you two have a plan to improve certain aspects. I'm currently seeing a female therapists that runs some groups for DBT for BPD; but given that I'm (highly)functional and male(that's just me being mean), it's just 5% of the sessions(after an occasional flare up) that she acknowledges my BPD.
  - dannyw 6y ago
    Yeah. I’m sad that men with BPD are recognised so much less... I had a psychiatrist in a big hospital tell me that my diagnosis is wrong because men can’t get BPD. To whoever downvoted GP: please don’t unless you actually have experience.
codingdave 6y ago
I have seen a couple therapists as well. In my experience, their service is a partnership, not a one-way fix. If they forget something, remind them. If you are feeling something they aren't bringing up, bring it up yourself. Therapists are not parents who will carry you through your problems, they are advisors to help you see the problem and learn some techniques to help. You still need to do the work, which includes directing the conversation at times.
- im3w1l 6y ago
  If the therapist doesn't have its shit together it undermines trust that they can help other people get their shit together.

by raducu 6y ago

dannyw 6y ago

Also a BPD. I see therapists on and off. I’ll do a session every two weeks and then drop off, sometimes I’ll find a new therapist because I want something new.

raducu 6y ago
That's not good and not bad. As far as I know, if you want to help with BPD by therapy, its better to have the same therapist, given you two have a plan to improve certain aspects. I'm currently seeing a female therapists that runs some groups for DBT for BPD; but given that I'm (highly)functional and male(that's just me being mean), it's just 5% of the sessions(after an occasional flare up) that she acknowledges my BPD.
- dannyw 6y ago
  Yeah. I’m sad that men with BPD are recognised so much less... I had a psychiatrist in a big hospital tell me that my diagnosis is wrong because men can’t get BPD. To whoever downvoted GP: please don’t unless you actually have experience.

codingdave 6y ago

I have seen a couple therapists as well. In my experience, their service is a partnership, not a one-way fix. If they forget something, remind them. If you are feeling something they aren't bringing up, bring it up yourself. Therapists are not parents who will carry you through your problems, they are advisors to help you see the problem and learn some techniques to help. You still need to do the work, which includes directing the conversation at times.

im3w1l 6y ago
If the therapist doesn't have its shit together it undermines trust that they can help other people get their shit together.