> keep up financially with my spouse's career and her changing life expectations This has been a big issue for multiple people in my social group. It's well kn

> keep up financially with my spouse's career and her changing life expectations This has been a big issue for multiple people in my social group. It's well known at this point that a relationship where a woman earns more is less stable - https://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/business/breadwinner-wives-and-nervous-husbands.html https://www.nytimes.com/2013/06/02/business/breadwinner-wive... Whether this is due to sexist expectations, increased likelihood of hypergamous relationships in women, etc., is not very relevant; this is not good for men with high-variance occupations.