I try to follow a lot of "attachment parenting" theory. Read material on that. I also did co-sleeping, which means I actually was able to sleep, but doctors in

I try to follow a lot of "attachment parenting" theory. Read material on that. I also did co-sleeping, which means I actually was able to sleep, but doctors in my country seem to be all against it since that's the current common practice. Read all of https://cosleeping.nd.edu/ https://cosleeping.nd.edu/ . My wife also read a lot on breastfeeding. There's a lot of science behind 'how to successfully breastfeed' and there's a huge chance all the advice your elders are going to give you is completely wrong. Read what modern science has to tell you about breastfeeding, ignore grandmas as much as possible! This stuff should be taught in schools. The tl;dr of my manual would be like something: - be in contact with the baby (preferably in mom's or dad's hands) as much as possible - when they cry, give the breast first, ask questions later Edit: learn that modern society's expectations that both parents work really sucks when there's a baby in the way. Mom going back to work when baby is 4-6m is not good for the baby. If you can financially afford to not to it, you should. If you can have one of the grandmas do the babysitting is alleviates the problem a little.