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It's probably because you're still young. More specifically (and here I'm guessing something about you), romantically unattached. Dating is a tough road to hoe

It's probably because you're still young. More specifically (and here I'm guessing something about you), romantically unattached. Dating is a tough road to hoe if you can't or won't fund about half of a wedding and at least one of kids-and-a-house or traveling-the-world. Well, not dating exactly - you can get laid and even start relationships but in my experience the relationships will have a half-life and eventually fall apart in the face of increasingly unpleasant conversations about your lack of interest in the expensive stuff mentioned above. Especially as a software engineer, I think, because ... hippies don't really like us that much, so there just aren't that many would-be ascetics out there willing to date us, and the people who do date us tend to pretty good at pegging their lifestyle expectations to a "leveled-up" career progression.

goldenchrome 6y ago
What you said is very subjective and is likely the product of the way you present yourself to the world. Normal people want those things because they’re the things that society deems normal, but there are plenty of weirdos out there if you look.
- neutronicus 6y ago
  Probably. I've always had kind of a dad vibe. However in regards to your last clause, I said as much in my comment. "Finding weirdos" was less of a problem than "finding weirdos without a grudge against weirdos like me."
HeyLaughingBoy 6y ago
Maybe you just need to be hanging out with a better class of folks? Not to be a dick, but if you find that you are attracting a certain type of person that you don't want to, then it's time for some introspection.
- neutronicus 6y ago
  Oh, I'm married, with a kid. What you're hearing is the result of introspection. At the end of the day it's easier (for someone privileged to be in this line of work) to just suck it up and make house-and-kid money than to date around looking for someone who wants to hitch their wagon to a slacker. And I really do love my wife and son to pieces
  - HeyLaughingBoy 6y ago
    Good. Glad to hear that you're happy.

goldenchrome 6y ago

What you said is very subjective and is likely the product of the way you present yourself to the world. Normal people want those things because they’re the things that society deems normal, but there are plenty of weirdos out there if you look.

neutronicus 6y ago
Probably. I've always had kind of a dad vibe. However in regards to your last clause, I said as much in my comment. "Finding weirdos" was less of a problem than "finding weirdos without a grudge against weirdos like me."

HeyLaughingBoy 6y ago

Maybe you just need to be hanging out with a better class of folks? Not to be a dick, but if you find that you are attracting a certain type of person that you don't want to, then it's time for some introspection.

neutronicus 6y ago
Oh, I'm married, with a kid. What you're hearing is the result of introspection. At the end of the day it's easier (for someone privileged to be in this line of work) to just suck it up and make house-and-kid money than to date around looking for someone who wants to hitch their wagon to a slacker. And I really do love my wife and son to pieces
- HeyLaughingBoy 6y ago
  Good. Glad to hear that you're happy.