Picking up your partner is something that mostly happens in performances rather than social dancing. Plus it's more about body mechanics than brute strength. I

Picking up your partner is something that mostly happens in performances rather than social dancing. Plus it's more about body mechanics than brute strength. I have plenty of short male friends who dance. Note also that 'male' and 'female' roles don't really exist these days in the dances I do. YMMV with scenes.