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Out of topic. When I met my (now) wife on online dating. A lot of her friends actually noted her to be careful, because there are a lot of crazy people here (NY

Out of topic. When I met my (now) wife on online dating. A lot of her friends actually noted her to be careful, because there are a lot of crazy people here (NYC). I agree with that notion.

shadowgovt 6y ago
There are a lot of people in NYC, period. That's going to increase the base number of those with some flavor of mental instability, but I've never seen anything to suggest the ratio is different than other places.
- christiansakai 6y ago
  It doesn't change what I said.
- EForEndeavour 6y ago
  In general: "studies have shown that the risk for serious mental illness is generally higher in cities compared to rural areas" [1]. For NYC specifically: about 60k out of America's 500k homeless people live in New York City, which is the highest homeless population of any US city [2]. The "large majority of street homeless New Yorkers are people living with mental illness or other severe health problems" [3]. These sources confirm what I think a lot of people have seen for themselves through personal travel and experience: mental illness/instability correlates with urbanization. [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5374256/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5374256/ [2] https://www.statista.com/chart/6949/the-us-cities-with-the-most-homeless-people/ https://www.statista.com/chart/6949/the-us-cities-with-the-m... [3] https://www.coalitionforthehomeless.org/basic-facts-about-homelessness-new-york-city/ https://www.coalitionforthehomeless.org/basic-facts-about-ho...
- throw51319 6y ago
  NYC definitely attracts more intense and crazy people, and it also makes people crazy for validation and success. NYC = crazy I lived there.
cvhashim 6y ago
There’s a lot of crazy people everywhere.
- EForEndeavour 6y ago
  That's objectively not true. "Crazy people" as measured by people with serious mental illness disproportionately gather in big cities. Even IF the per-capita rate were absolutely flat across the urban-rural dimension, which it is not, you'd still face more opportunities to cross paths with a "crazy person" in a dense city compared to a smaller one.
  - sfkdjf9j3j 6y ago
    That doesn't seem obviously true to me, do you have some more details?
    - EForEndeavour 6y ago
      https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23872836 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23872836
vmception 6y ago
Anyone can taser anyone and do anything to them. It doesn't matter if they have public social media profiles, a bunch of accolades, or not. There is a group of people that carry tasers in their purse for a sense of security, theoretically putting the people that don't carry purses at all at more risk. You can also have a healthy relationship. YMMV. Its actually pretty random and potential dates miss many connections if they resort to overfitting to reduce potential strife. The end.

Out of topic. When I met my (now) wife on online dating. A lot of her friends actually noted her to be careful, because there are a lot of crazy people here (NYC). I agree with that notion.

shadowgovt 6y ago

There are a lot of people in NYC, period. That's going to increase the base number of those with some flavor of mental instability, but I've never seen anything to suggest the ratio is different than other places.

christiansakai 6y ago
It doesn't change what I said.
EForEndeavour 6y ago
In general: "studies have shown that the risk for serious mental illness is generally higher in cities compared to rural areas" [1]. For NYC specifically: about 60k out of America's 500k homeless people live in New York City, which is the highest homeless population of any US city [2]. The "large majority of street homeless New Yorkers are people living with mental illness or other severe health problems" [3]. These sources confirm what I think a lot of people have seen for themselves through personal travel and experience: mental illness/instability correlates with urbanization. [1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5374256/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5374256/ [2] https://www.statista.com/chart/6949/the-us-cities-with-the-most-homeless-people/ https://www.statista.com/chart/6949/the-us-cities-with-the-m... [3] https://www.coalitionforthehomeless.org/basic-facts-about-homelessness-new-york-city/ https://www.coalitionforthehomeless.org/basic-facts-about-ho...
throw51319 6y ago
NYC definitely attracts more intense and crazy people, and it also makes people crazy for validation and success. NYC = crazy I lived there.

cvhashim 6y ago

There’s a lot of crazy people everywhere.

EForEndeavour 6y ago
That's objectively not true. "Crazy people" as measured by people with serious mental illness disproportionately gather in big cities. Even IF the per-capita rate were absolutely flat across the urban-rural dimension, which it is not, you'd still face more opportunities to cross paths with a "crazy person" in a dense city compared to a smaller one.
- sfkdjf9j3j 6y ago
  That doesn't seem obviously true to me, do you have some more details?
  - EForEndeavour 6y ago
    https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23872836 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=23872836

vmception 6y ago

Anyone can taser anyone and do anything to them. It doesn't matter if they have public social media profiles, a bunch of accolades, or not. There is a group of people that carry tasers in their purse for a sense of security, theoretically putting the people that don't carry purses at all at more risk. You can also have a healthy relationship. YMMV. Its actually pretty random and potential dates miss many connections if they resort to overfitting to reduce potential strife. The end.