Sure, we all understand why it has to be this way. Doesn't change the fact that I'm never going to feel emotional loyalty to a startup that I know is giving me

Sure, we all understand why it has to be this way. Doesn't change the fact that I'm never going to feel emotional loyalty to a startup that I know is giving me as little equity as it can get away with (and what there is will probably be whittled away by dilution, sketchy clawback terms, etc.) Loyalty is a two-way street.