That's exactly my point. Essentializing about society being a cage that prevents people from being fully human removes all nuance as to which social norms are

That's exactly my point. Essentializing about society being a cage that prevents people from being fully human removes all nuance as to which social norms are pro-social and which are anti-social, which norms are suffocating, and which norms actually provide the freedom from fear that people need in order to exist without constant anxiety. It treats all of them the same - as shackles on the "freedom" necessary to be a "full human".