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Well, so there is couple of issues with "not giving a shit". The problem is that it is all too easy to normalize this and get in a habit of stopping giving a s
by lmilcin 6y ago
Well, so there is couple of issues with "not giving a shit".
The problem is that it is all too easy to normalize this and get in a habit of stopping giving a shit for smaller and smaller reasons. You begin rationalizing your reasons and at all times feel completely justified in your not-giving-a-shit attitude.
I don't want to be the person that doesn't give a shit. "Not giving shit" is exactly opposite of what I would like to be doing. The moment this happens I feel I will become mindless drone that I have complained about for so long.
I believe solution in this case would be to stop for a second and propose to clearly attribute design to the person that proposed and required the design to be this and not the other way. Being able to decide something is in my book synonymous with responsibility. If I decide, I take responsibility for the decision, if I do not decide, I feel no responsibility. It is just a matter of communication to explain to everybody else who is decisionmaker in which aspects of the project.
- odonnellryan 6y agoThere's a difference between not giving a shit and not allowing this type of behavior to impact you negatively. I might casually describe the latter as not giving a shit.
- lmilcin 6y agoI think if you care for your project and take pride for the result it is going to be difficult to separate both (not impossible, just extremely difficult). I personally find it very difficult to accept outside direction to meddle in the project if I see it is clearly unwarranted, meddlesome and damaging to the project. If I feel responsibility for the wellbeing of the project I also feel responsibility to act on such damaging attempts and it is difficult to act with conviction if you feel dispassionate.