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Yes, but real-life situations are rarely as high stakes as interviews, on the individual level. Sure - you can find yourself in very stressful situations at wo
by TrackerFF 6y ago
Yes, but real-life situations are rarely as high stakes as interviews, on the individual level.
Sure - you can find yourself in very stressful situations at work, but I have never in my life been in a situation where you're given 45 mins (or hours, for that mater) to solve some problem, or you get fired.
Simply but, there's an incredible discrepancy between the stakes at play, between interviews and work.
To put it a bit more extreme - but to hammer down the point: Imagine working on some problem, with no help whatsoever, and that in front of you, there's some guy pointing a gun against you.
Just imagine how stressful that must be, and how much of your focus is distracted on reading that guy.
Same goes for interviews. For a lot of candidates, that interview is their way out of poverty or lower-class living. And the judge and executioner of your future, is sitting in the same room as you. It's a very stressful situation - probably one of the most stressful situations in your life.
- dpc_pw 6y agoI think that's one of a big problem for candidates to fix - that mindset is wrong and should be changed. An interview should not be a "high stakes situation". It should be more of a casual event - trying to get each other and see if there's any fit. An interview that didn't go well is effectively the same as not having an interview at all. Worst case is losing some time and even then it's often a possibility to learn something. Taking it all too personally is a big mistake. Sometimes even candidates that did really well don't get a job offer for weird reasons, etc. It's very similar to dating. Desperation ruins everything. I think that might be a reason why a lot of people report getting a job after they stopped carrying anymore.