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I had a long conversation about this with a friend. I think his biggest crime here was that he made some women feel they were special, when really they were ju
by LandR 6y ago
I had a long conversation about this with a friend.
I think his biggest crime here was that he made some women feel they were special, when really they were just another one night stand... It seems he had a lot of female fans that wanted to sleep with him, and he slept with them. He didn't force anyone into anything, everything was consensual.
IMO, what he did wrong was that he didn't explain to each women that they weren't special. He probably made them feel they were special knowing that they were just a fling to him. He didn't explain that he had a different woman in his hotel the previous night and will likely have yet another woman in his hotel tomorrow. The women claim that without this information they couldn't give consent and essentially withdraw their consent after the fact.
I think that the women here were groupies.... They maybe didn't believe they were groupies, but they were groupies. They were also incredibly naive.
So It seems to be an information problem. How much information must you present to a potential sexual partner before sex to allow them to make an informed decision and give consent? Can you withdraw consent after the fact if you discover more information that leads to your ego being damaged or your heart being broken ? Where is the line drawn here between victim blaming and saying that people should take some personal responsibility? I personally know people that say that a women can withdraw consent anytime after the fact and the act becomes rape. I don't agree with this at all, but obviously some people do!
Don't get me wrong, he sounds like an arsehole. He knew what he was doing and it looks like he was cheating on his long term partner too. The whole thing is a bit icky, but I don't think he did anything that wrong.