You are either a duck or a swan. They are similar. But not the same. Neither is essentially better. It doesn't matter how you define them. The only important a

You are either a duck or a swan. They are similar. But not the same. Neither is essentially better. It doesn't matter how you define them. The only important aspect is that once you realise you are one and not the other you know you don't fit. You can swim with the others, even eat and socialise with them but understand you are not the same. You may need to adjust your methods and expectations. Consider your presence and possible exit strategy carefully. Even how you interact may need to be adjusted lest you offend them even accidentally.