Where are the aggrieved and why don't they ever show and speak for themselves in these threads? I've seen exactly one comment in many thousands from a person wh

Where are the aggrieved and why don't they ever show and speak for themselves in these threads? I've seen exactly one comment in many thousands from a person who stated outright that they were a female minority and... She ranted that these language changes are coddling... I've spoken to a few minority, female, and homosexual friends (in tech) and colleagues and they share the same sentiment (I understand how ironic it is that I, too, show up with nothing but anecdotes). How does this reconcile with the 100s/1000s of comments that amount to, "but some people find this stuff offensive!"